Thursday, October 30, 2008

life ho to aisi - 1

Every other day, you see a lot of rape cases in the newspapers. Doesn’t even shock me now. But, if you have never heard of people raping women with their eyes, then welcome to Kerala!! God's own country.

For instance, today morning, I’m waiting in the bus-stop, happily dressed in my new jeans and kurti. This guy, a typical 'thozhililla party', in a kaili, grinding a beedi between his teeth, walks past me. Stop! Sudden break. Reverse gear. He walks back, halts in front of me and stares-head to foot. As if I’m some dummy in a textile shop. At this point, I start sweating and am desperately searching for cover. Thank god!! There are two other women there, each wide enough to cover me.I hide behind them and the guy leaves. Sigh!!!

Nope. Not time for a sigh yet. The ladies have launched an attack. And this time, it’s my jeans. Of course! “Look at her! Noshame at all! I would never allow my daughter to go out in such clothes!!” and the next comment- “veetteennu azhichu vittirikkuva”….Dear god in heaven!

My bus arrives saving me from the rest of the tongue lashing. I find an empty seat beside a trying-to-look-young lady in her late 40's. I sit down and she jumps. “I thought you were a boy!!” @#%^$&* (All comments censored).

I mean people, what IS wrong with the jeans? I’d say it’s much more comfortable than the sari. And decent. Mean, it covers more parts of your body than the sari does… (If that’s what decency is all about)...Here, I’m strongly reminded of Shilpa Shetty’s saris. How that thing defies all laws of gravity still remains a mystery. Hmmm.

This old woman, who has tried her level best to recreate her long since lost youth in an inch thick make-up and a churidar,is looking down at me as if I’m some dirt under her feet. Just look at her!! She’s got an abnormally large number of tyres on her waist, bulging out of the most unlikely places!! At least, I’m not that unfortunate looking!!

Humph!!! Tell me about it!!!


meril said...

What am i sup'sd to comment on this?? been there, heard that???
well sweetie, welcome to kerala, nice to meet u ! :P
Bolo jeans ki..Jai!!

മൃദുല്‍....|| MRIDUL said...

Hmmmm...Didnt U Tell Anythin To Those Bus Stop Aunties N To This Buswali !!! ?????

lostinthought said...

pothinte cheviyil enthina mridule vedamothunnath?

Rohan said...

come on man...just give that "do i look like i even care" look

lostinthought said...

of course i gave that..the don't-you dare-give-me-anymore-bullshit look..even better..huh?

josemon said...

താങ്കളുടെ ധാര്‍മ്മിക രോഷം ഞാന്‍ മനസ്സിലാക്കുന്നു
ഹാസ്യബോധം ആസ്വദിക്കുകയും ചെയ്യുന്നു
എങ്കിലും താങ്കള്‍ ഒന്ന് ഓര്‍ക്കണം
ആണുങ്ങള്‍ ആദ്യം മലയാളനാട്ടിലൂടെ പാന്റ് ഇട്ട് നടന്നപ്പോഴും,
യുവാക്കള്‍ കുടുമ്മിമുറിച്ചപ്പോഴും,
ഈഴവ സ്ത്രീകള്‍ ആദ്യമായി ബ്ലൌസു ധരിച്ചപ്പോഴും എല്ലാം ഇത്തരം കമന്റുകള്‍ കേട്ടിട്ടില്ലേ..?
ഈ സമൂഹം ഇങ്ങിനെയാണു,കുറച്ചുകഴിയുമ്പോള്‍ എല്ലാം അംഗീകരിക്കും
ഒന്നുഞാന്‍ മറക്കുന്നില്ല
അപ്പോഴേക്കും താങ്കള്‍ അതൊന്നും ശ്രദ്ധിക്കാത്ത ഒരു അമ്മൂമ്മയായോ,വല്യമ്മൂമ്മയായോ മാറും അല്ലേ?

achu said...

hi sis, keep writng, u hav gt tht flow.
i do agree 2 ur views. thnk god ,i'm in cochin where no1 seems 2 care about others
but i differ 2 ur generalization of mallus. frm my xperience i feel its same in B'lore or chennai or old delhi.actually at times i felt like chkng mirror 2 c whethr i hav transferred 2 ET. except the metros, i feel India is jst same..........

Sanal... said...

yeah i agree,i dono y ppl have probs with wearing as if a girl wears a sari the guy wud nt have stared...simple absurd...and i wud say the guys everywhere are the same...
expect in some places they don't stare at you for a long make u feel uncomfortable...
and u write very nicely meera...

meera said...

@ everyone

thank you guys..thanks a lot..

i haven't been writing for a very loooong time..i had almost forgotten i had a this is really encouraging..i'll be writing..soon..

thanks once again for all the support..

പാലാ ശ്രീനിവാസന്‍ said...

dear daughter,
ur writing is nice,
josmons view is interesting.
what he said is true
i just laughed on reading that.
write more blogs.

itsjeevs said...

Ahem ahem. wisely put. I differ to mridul's commment.
I hardly think that there is any point in even talking to those people.
The more you speak on why-am-i-wearing-this, there-is-no-problem-in-jeans, their conviction grows deeper.

They will believe that you are justifying your attire and since you are justifying, you should be wrong in the first place.

The best thing is to ignore, and hope this stupidity will soon be over.

ckj said...

As u found a problem with Shilpa Shetty’s sari, make sure that no one is having problem with your way of wearing the jeans..
Have the courage to respond if you are perfect

ബിജിത്‌ :|: Bijith said...

You need more people in your wagon. If you were in Bangalore, you will hardly draw attention ( unless youtry HARD for it ), because it is normal here. Unless there are many like you in Malayalee roads, learn to enjoy the attention :)

പ്രദീപ്‌ said...

if you have never heard of people raping women with their eyes, then welcome to Kerala!! God's own country.

ha ha ha . best " bhaavana"

Cijo Thomas said...

Entha Kadha!! .. nice writing..!

Jishad Cronic™ said...

nice writing...

Athira said...

Huh!!! I have been in the same situation many many times!!!
I don't feel anything in particular these days when someone says such things. Why should I bother if someone is living in 15th century? And whether it be about your jeans or Shilpa Shetty's sari, the choice goes to the wearer. If someone has a problem, let them not look at you!